It also depends on whether she does regularly say yes to some low-energy things (chill coffee afternoon) and only no to high-energy things (loud parties with ma

It also depends on whether she does regularly say yes to some low-energy things (chill coffee afternoon) and only no to high-energy things (loud parties with many strangers). And the ratio between those. If we go to some events together every week or more often, but she doesn't like going to the club, which we typically do monthly, it can make sense to still ask her if she wants to come to the club even if I know she will likely decline, because who knows. If it's constantly "no", to anything, including a chill tea evening with 3 people or movie theater or walk in the park or museum etc., then I'd conclude she doesn't like the group/me and the invites are probably annoying.