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I think that if you truly "have" Asperger people will make you feel it quite hard. You are very boring and odd to them. If they need you, they'll play along but
by seec 1y ago
I think that if you truly "have" Asperger people will make you feel it quite hard. You are very boring and odd to them.
If they need you, they'll play along but for the most part you'll get singled out and isolated quickly in many common social situations.
There has been a romantisation of Asperger/autism because people only want to look at the "benefits". But the truth is that it's a very isolating experience and the tradeoffs are rarely very nice.
In a similar fashion, people will romanticize being very tall, when they are actually many pain points to that experience as well...
We always desire what we don't have, because we can't be fully aware of the compromises required without experiencing them.
- LorenPechtel 1y agoExactly--I am generally isolated in social situations, only one of the group in technical situations.
- seec 1y agoMost people really cannot fathom how much of a debilitating experience it can be. I always end up in a place where people seem weirdly obtuse, imprecise and just irrational. Even when I make big efforts to connect, I feel alone because it feels like we are not even speaking the same language. Of course, there are some social groups/spaces where it's much better but I currently do not have access to them because of poor life choices and bad habits ingrained from a very difficult childhood. But I'm working on changing that. It's not like I'm not used to it, anyway. At the age of 4, the responsible women at the kindergarten told my mother that I was "too different" (only recently learned this, not that I didn't realize something was going on back then). I have always been able to make friends somehow but there is always a weird disconnect. Ah well, can't recommend the experience really.