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I've always found that it's about defining win/win situations. Also, you should make real human connection in the process. If you don't like the person, that's
by bentt 1y ago
I've always found that it's about defining win/win situations. Also, you should make real human connection in the process. If you don't like the person, that's a real issue. It may not be that the person is unlikeable, it may be that you aren't finding a perspective that aligns right.
But yeah, aligning incentives and making friends. Even if they don't go the way you want, you both still had a positive experience and can potentially find a way to work together in the future.
- croes 1y agoSometimes there is no win/win.
- bentt 1y agoGive me an example.
- leakycap 1y agoI'm sure you can think of a personally meaningful example if you try; have you turned on the news lately? There's a big story that people seem to be having a hard time finding a win/win and people are starving and being killed. Sadly, that description doesn't even narrow it down to one "no-win" situation I can think of, so your comment is slightly concerning on its face.
- bentt 1y agoI asked as a chance (a challenge even) to reframe an arbitrary situation. Even the one you mention, at this exact moment, a win/win could be framed around the benefits of stopping the war. While it's entirely reasonable to pick a perspective that focuses on the awfulness that has occurred, looking ahead, a peace deal would benefit all sides. Certainly it's closer to win/win than continuing down the current path. My point is that the perspective we take is a choice.