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I'll respond to the title instead of the article. As an attorney, I've found that the best persuasion is the removal of impediments and friction standing betwe
by treetalker 1y ago
I'll respond to the title instead of the article.
As an attorney, I've found that the best persuasion is the removal of impediments and friction standing between the person you hope to influence and what they want to do in the first place.
Most other tactics amount to force or deceit ("manipulation").
- smcin 1y agoAre you talking about the judge, opposing attorney, your client, coworker, business partner, or who? Surely that context matters much more than you're suggesting, viz what you individually perceive the impediments and friction to be, and how you both think they can be removed?
- rendx 1y ago(Not OP) How so? Behind every "no", there is a good reason. If you are honestly curious to understand the objection or hesitation, you may find ways to address them, and find others opening up to your suggestions when their points have been heard. Fundamental principle behind NVC.
- nenenejej 1y agoLawyers vs. lawyers may not be the cleanest example since a defence lawyers job is to make it harder for th prosecution to win, but then might want to get that advantage then mediate a deal. For most of us ideally a colleague is more aligned than that.
- jbs789 1y agoThis connects with me. More about helping people do what they already have in mind. Connecting with people and finding overlapping interests rather than a manipulation mindset.
- wiz21c 1y ago> force or deceit exactly!
- joquarky 1y agoThat sounds a lot like what data scientists have to do at any publicly traded company.