I didn’t argue that at all. If money is being given to help raise children, it should go directly to parents. They can choose to spend on outsourcing their rear

I didn’t argue that at all. If money is being given to help raise children, it should go directly to parents. They can choose to spend on outsourcing their rearing (like you seem to advocate for), or they could use it to buy things to make raising their own child better (educational tools, etc).