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Bailing out on the responsibilities of caregiving of the spouse, thus forcing the burden onto adult children whose careers are cut short or obliterated may be o
by notmyjob 1y ago
Bailing out on the responsibilities of caregiving of the spouse, thus forcing the burden onto adult children whose careers are cut short or obliterated may be one common reason this occurs.
- foogazi 1y agoHow is this different than death ?
- open592 1y agoMy reaction to be thrust into this responsibility is different if my parent just up and left vs died. It’s my responsibility into the later and me assuming their responsibility in the former.
- giantg2 1y agoBecause you may have 2 different parents to care for instead of just 1. In general, this could also mean longer caregiving periods based on the ages of the divorce vs typical lifespan.
- lurking_swe 1y agodeath is a single sad event. A specific day. Unexpectedly becoming the sole caregiver of an aging parent seems different to me. I can imagine some resentment, especially if it’s unexpected _and_ one is already the caregiver for their own spouse, children, etc. It changes your life plans, adds additional daily stress in your life, and may also add financial stress.
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- foogazi 1y agoeverything you said also applies in the death of the other parent: unexpected, sole caregiver, aging parent, changes life plans Even if they don’t divorce and one dies it changes your life plans The only thing different is the bummer of divorce and the emotional fallout from it
- phil21 1y ago2 people to fund retirements for as separate people for many adult kids who have solid careers and irresponsible parents. Ignoring healthcare it’s about twice as expensive both in time and money. HN folks I assume are expected to handle these sorts of obligations more than average due to tech career incomes.