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Let's not trivialize upending someone's entire life because they hurt your feelings.
by fkyoureadthedoc 1y ago
Let's not trivialize upending someone's entire life because they hurt your feelings.
- integralid 1y ago"Let's not trivialize firing someone because they (verbally) abused someone"? Are you OK with mobbing in the workplace? They may be "just words" but the can actually have a huge mental negative effect on someone, especially if sustained. I'm not saying this level of seriousness is what happened here, but you exaggerate in the other direction.
- latchup 1y agoAs with all forms of verbal abuse, the presence of a power imbalance is paramount. And since we abolished slavery, it is about as high as it gets here. What an employee says about their boss generally has zero implications on their career and lives, so long as it does not outright accuse them of a crime. When's the last time someone called you to provide a reference on your boss? I thought so. In turn, what a boss says about their employees can be entirely career-ending and therefore life-altering, even if said in jest or later retracted. A higher standard exists precisely because the stakes are so much higher.
- juanani 1y ago[dead]
- bgirard 1y agoWe shouldn't tolerate verbal abuse to avoid upending the life of the abuser.
- fkyoureadthedoc 1y agoYes, adopt the language of therapists to add some gravitas. Sorry, but getting called an asshole/dickhead/whatever (especially if it's true) is not abuse in this context. Even less so given the power imbalance between the employee and the employer.