What I meant by plans are time-bound is: The event is next week. But I get what you're saying about being "locked in". It's different for different people. I so

What I meant by plans are time-bound is: The event is next week. But I get what you're saying about being "locked in". It's different for different people. I solo golf all the time and meet people in the process. Does the equation change the moment there is judgement involved ? conversely, if the focus is on the (self-chosen) activity, does that lighten the mood ?