A little tough to get a hold of and to read, but The Myth of Masculinity by Joseph Pleck [http://www.amazon.com/The-Myth-Masculinity-Joseph-Pleck/dp/0262660504

A little tough to get a hold of and to read, but The Myth of Masculinity by Joseph Pleck [http://www.amazon.com/The-Myth-Masculinity-Joseph-Pleck/dp/0262660504 http://www.amazon.com/The-Myth-Masculinity-Joseph-Pleck/dp/0...] is by far the most thorough take on male masculinity I've ever read.