The essay goes into this, clearly means love in a different way to how you've taken it, and doesn't exclude the use of rules to codify it: "Loving attention: a

The essay goes into this, clearly means love in a different way to how you've taken it, and doesn't exclude the use of rules to codify it: "Loving attention: a kind of just, patient, generous attention to others. This, she thinks, is what will improve the moral quality of our vision and put us in touch with reality as it truly is. Loving attention, she insists, is central to morality, and that is because it draws us out of ourselves towards the object of love, overcoming our habitual tendency to turn inward."