It's not necessarily that black and white, it can be both. When my girlfriend asks me to do the dishes quickly and I've still not done them after an hour becaus

It's not necessarily that black and white, it can be both. When my girlfriend asks me to do the dishes quickly and I've still not done them after an hour because something objcetively less important was more interesting to me - then there's a problem as it's a fair request. The unconscious unhelpful thoughts and behaviours you develop because of ADHD work against you - because at the end of the day you also have to take care of yourself (cut your nails, floss your teeth, wash your clothes), not only the household. The connections you have with colleagues, friends, family and yourself are something you have to manage consciously - either with sports, meditation and journaling or medication - or both! It's easy to say, society is maladaptive. you could say, let all these adhd people just do creative work or teaching - but then they still have to organize and care for themselves. Alternatively give all those diagnosed a free pass to not meet demands and expectations of society and give them a basic income. I'd rather help myself or let myself be helped to meet the minimum demands and expectations of work and significant others - the alternative is: he can't be a responsible human being, cannot be asked to do a simple job, as he's always with his head in the clouds. Of course ADHD is also a superpower, but a handicap as well (to me).