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> handle rejection poorly Off-topic but recently I found out about Sensitive Rejection Dysphoria, its not officially recognized as a thing but it is in active

> handle rejection poorly Off-topic but recently I found out about Sensitive Rejection Dysphoria, its not officially recognized as a thing but it is in active study now, and very related to ADHD, and tbh I wish I knew about it sooner

losthobbies 1y ago
Same as me. I think about it every day now. I’m 44 and It explains a lot of my behaviours. I found the adhd chatter podcast very helpful https://youtube.com/@adhd_chatter_podcast?si=Ne0isYQ2QCgIeqYI https://youtube.com/@adhd_chatter_podcast?si=Ne0isYQ2QCgIeqY...
- mthoms 1y ago
  It's nothing personal but I clicked your link enthusiastically and was greeted with nothing but clickbait thumbnails. "THIS COMMON MEDICATION IS DANGEROUS FOR ADHD WOMEN!" & "THIS STRANGE HABIT IN PREGNANCY INCREASES THE RISK OF ADHD!" are just two examples. I'm sure it's a good podcast but I find this practice distasteful at best and absolutely abhorrent when you're directly targeting mental health patients with poor impulse control and self-regulation issues. (I want to emphasize that I know you mean well :-) )
  - losthobbies 1y ago
    Yea that is very annoying. It's copying the Diary of a CEO format, sensationalizing the topic.
cardanome 1y ago
Yes, knowing about RSD was life changing for me. Before I had my ADHD diagnosis, I just assumed that I have social anxiety and tried to fix it myself by giving me exposure therapy. I would force myself to seek out any social interaction regardless on how I felt. The result was that I got worse, so much worse because I was basically trained myself to disregard my emotions. Turns out being undiagnosed with ADHD is traumatizing. I did not imagine that people hated me for being different, I never had any phobia. It wasn't "just in my head". The truth is that I am different and lots of people will instinctively hate me for being neurodivergent. I just needed to learn to deal with that. That is why a correct diagnosis is so important. I despise that people are given generic diagnosis like depression or anxiety instead of digging deeper and trying to find out what actually causes them.
- hombre_fatal 1y ago
  Dang, that sounds kinda like me though I never heard of RSD until now. I guess it's like ADHD in that way: I thought I was just a lazy sack of shit until I found out I have a condition that I can treat with a pill. Then I could merely accept that it's not something I have control over, and I could move on. Funnily enough no matter how great my life is nor how confident I feel, every once in a while a catastrophic fear of rejection will leap into my chest and I suddenly feel like I'm that poor terrified 15-year-old me, and I have to shake it off. I have much better tools for dealing with it now that I don't see it as part of my identity, much like I don't see myself as lazy.
- Aerbil313 1y ago
  That's the weird thing about neurodivergence. I forced myself for a year to finally "come out of my shell" and socialize in the college. On the surface I succeeded, got a friend group, hanging out frequently. Nothing improved, at the end of the year I was dreading any social interaction more than ever. Turns out I had AuDHD and I was masking (pretending to be neurotypical when around people). Can't tell you how exhausting that is. I cut off all my friends and couldn't be happier since. Some people are simply not wired to socialize.
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astrange 1y ago
It's not officially recognized because it's just something a guy with a blog made up. It has a fancy sciencey sounding name to cover up that a guy with a blog made it up. It doesn't seem to be particularly exclusive to ADHD; to me it sounds like it's just anxiety. Note that the guy who made it up advocates a specific medication regime for it that you probably aren't taking. https://slatestarcodex.com/2018/08/14/ssc-survey-results-adhd-and-rejection-sensitivity/ https://slatestarcodex.com/2018/08/14/ssc-survey-results-adh...

losthobbies 1y ago

Same as me. I think about it every day now. I’m 44 and It explains a lot of my behaviours. I found the adhd chatter podcast very helpful https://youtube.com/@adhd_chatter_podcast?si=Ne0isYQ2QCgIeqYI https://youtube.com/@adhd_chatter_podcast?si=Ne0isYQ2QCgIeqY...

mthoms 1y ago
It's nothing personal but I clicked your link enthusiastically and was greeted with nothing but clickbait thumbnails. "THIS COMMON MEDICATION IS DANGEROUS FOR ADHD WOMEN!" & "THIS STRANGE HABIT IN PREGNANCY INCREASES THE RISK OF ADHD!" are just two examples. I'm sure it's a good podcast but I find this practice distasteful at best and absolutely abhorrent when you're directly targeting mental health patients with poor impulse control and self-regulation issues. (I want to emphasize that I know you mean well :-) )
- losthobbies 1y ago
  Yea that is very annoying. It's copying the Diary of a CEO format, sensationalizing the topic.

cardanome 1y ago

Yes, knowing about RSD was life changing for me. Before I had my ADHD diagnosis, I just assumed that I have social anxiety and tried to fix it myself by giving me exposure therapy. I would force myself to seek out any social interaction regardless on how I felt. The result was that I got worse, so much worse because I was basically trained myself to disregard my emotions. Turns out being undiagnosed with ADHD is traumatizing. I did not imagine that people hated me for being different, I never had any phobia. It wasn't "just in my head". The truth is that I am different and lots of people will instinctively hate me for being neurodivergent. I just needed to learn to deal with that. That is why a correct diagnosis is so important. I despise that people are given generic diagnosis like depression or anxiety instead of digging deeper and trying to find out what actually causes them.

hombre_fatal 1y ago
Dang, that sounds kinda like me though I never heard of RSD until now. I guess it's like ADHD in that way: I thought I was just a lazy sack of shit until I found out I have a condition that I can treat with a pill. Then I could merely accept that it's not something I have control over, and I could move on. Funnily enough no matter how great my life is nor how confident I feel, every once in a while a catastrophic fear of rejection will leap into my chest and I suddenly feel like I'm that poor terrified 15-year-old me, and I have to shake it off. I have much better tools for dealing with it now that I don't see it as part of my identity, much like I don't see myself as lazy.
Aerbil313 1y ago
That's the weird thing about neurodivergence. I forced myself for a year to finally "come out of my shell" and socialize in the college. On the surface I succeeded, got a friend group, hanging out frequently. Nothing improved, at the end of the year I was dreading any social interaction more than ever. Turns out I had AuDHD and I was masking (pretending to be neurotypical when around people). Can't tell you how exhausting that is. I cut off all my friends and couldn't be happier since. Some people are simply not wired to socialize.

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astrange 1y ago

It's not officially recognized because it's just something a guy with a blog made up. It has a fancy sciencey sounding name to cover up that a guy with a blog made it up. It doesn't seem to be particularly exclusive to ADHD; to me it sounds like it's just anxiety. Note that the guy who made it up advocates a specific medication regime for it that you probably aren't taking. https://slatestarcodex.com/2018/08/14/ssc-survey-results-adhd-and-rejection-sensitivity/ https://slatestarcodex.com/2018/08/14/ssc-survey-results-adh...