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Congrats! I'm also a new father - PG (and everyone else) could you share any general parenting advice, or give pointers to sources from which you seek advice o

by andreyf 18y ago

Congrats! I'm also a new father - PG (and everyone else) could you share any general parenting advice, or give pointers to sources from which you seek advice on parenting? One I've found invaluable is Alfie Kohn - his ideas gave me insight into general psychology as well as child raising that I'd feel completely lost without.

sgibat 18y ago
There've been a few of articles on here about it so I'm sure you've caught it already, but I'll just say: praise what the child does, not who they are. Praise a child for doing a good job or trying again after failure, not for being smart or gifted.
conanite 18y ago
Firstly, congratulations on your children. Secondly, congratulations on caring enough to read about how to parent well. Anything by Faber and Mazlish is well worth reading - and it resonates well with Alfie Kohn. Their work covers eliciting co-operation, alternatives to punishment, encouraging autonomy, dealing with feelings, and much else besides.
Alex3917 18y ago
Read both of these, and soon, since they describe things which become fixed after age three or so: Meaningful Differences In The Everyday Experiences Of Young American Children Emotional Intelligence There are other books you can read once the kid gets to school age, but I think these two are the most important for the cognitive and emotional development of the infant. edit: Kohn is also one of my all time favorite authors.
- andreyf 18y ago
  Thanks! I'll get those ASAP.
- andreyf 18y ago
  Slightly related startup idea - if it were easier for you to embed Amazon affiliate links, you would have gotten ~$10 commission for that recommendation. If YC got a cut of $5, that would add up... The way things work now Google got it (because I copy-pasted your recommendations into my search box). In general, how easy could one make it for people to recommend products to each other, and split the commission between publisher, recommender, and facilitator?
  - Alex3917 18y ago
    "In general, how easy could one make it for people to recommend products to each other, and split the commission between publisher, recommender, and facilitator?" That's exactly what Squidoo is designed for. It's especially designed for short pages that combine advice and information with product recommendations.
    - andreyf 18y ago
      short pages [...] with product recommendations Not a separate page, but right here, in news.YC, on reddit, on twitter, on mailing threads, wherever.
      - Alex3917 18y ago
        If the recommender already has the ability to earn affiliate money without the platform taking a cut, why would the recommender want to give the platform a cut? With Squidoo it makes sense because they get more traffic than they would otherwise, but if I could just set up an Amazon affiliate account and use that to post a link onto news.yc, what do I stand to gain by giving YC a cut?
        e1ven 18y ago
        Imagine if YC were to automatically load the links, and re-format them to use the YC referrer, and then add a button in your profile that allows you to request a check for your 1/2. You don't need affiliate accounts with 15 different companies. The platform takes care of it for you, and cuts you a check. Think of it as a meta-affiliate.
        andreyf 18y ago
        why would the recommender want to give the platform a cut? Because setting up affiliate accounts and links is a pain in the ass. You gave Google a cut by not making it a direct link - a 100% cut... if there were an easy way of inserting a link straight to Amazon, you probably would have done it. Also, platforms would be interested in providing more prominent placement for recommendations than they would other content. In other words, ads configurable by the website's users. Kind of like what Adpinion is doing, but instead of just voting on ads, you actually recommend relevant ads for the content. I'm usually really cynical about my own ideas, but this one seems pretty solid... am I missing something?
rodrigo 18y ago
http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=127711 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=127711 I asked some time ago, got great responses.

by andreyf 18y ago

sgibat 18y ago

There've been a few of articles on here about it so I'm sure you've caught it already, but I'll just say: praise what the child does, not who they are. Praise a child for doing a good job or trying again after failure, not for being smart or gifted.

conanite 18y ago

Firstly, congratulations on your children. Secondly, congratulations on caring enough to read about how to parent well. Anything by Faber and Mazlish is well worth reading - and it resonates well with Alfie Kohn. Their work covers eliciting co-operation, alternatives to punishment, encouraging autonomy, dealing with feelings, and much else besides.

Alex3917 18y ago

Read both of these, and soon, since they describe things which become fixed after age three or so: Meaningful Differences In The Everyday Experiences Of Young American Children Emotional Intelligence There are other books you can read once the kid gets to school age, but I think these two are the most important for the cognitive and emotional development of the infant. edit: Kohn is also one of my all time favorite authors.

andreyf 18y ago
Thanks! I'll get those ASAP.
andreyf 18y ago
Slightly related startup idea - if it were easier for you to embed Amazon affiliate links, you would have gotten ~$10 commission for that recommendation. If YC got a cut of $5, that would add up... The way things work now Google got it (because I copy-pasted your recommendations into my search box). In general, how easy could one make it for people to recommend products to each other, and split the commission between publisher, recommender, and facilitator?
- Alex3917 18y ago
  "In general, how easy could one make it for people to recommend products to each other, and split the commission between publisher, recommender, and facilitator?" That's exactly what Squidoo is designed for. It's especially designed for short pages that combine advice and information with product recommendations.
  - andreyf 18y ago
    short pages [...] with product recommendations Not a separate page, but right here, in news.YC, on reddit, on twitter, on mailing threads, wherever.
    - Alex3917 18y ago
      If the recommender already has the ability to earn affiliate money without the platform taking a cut, why would the recommender want to give the platform a cut? With Squidoo it makes sense because they get more traffic than they would otherwise, but if I could just set up an Amazon affiliate account and use that to post a link onto news.yc, what do I stand to gain by giving YC a cut?
      - e1ven 18y ago
        Imagine if YC were to automatically load the links, and re-format them to use the YC referrer, and then add a button in your profile that allows you to request a check for your 1/2. You don't need affiliate accounts with 15 different companies. The platform takes care of it for you, and cuts you a check. Think of it as a meta-affiliate.
      - andreyf 18y ago
        why would the recommender want to give the platform a cut? Because setting up affiliate accounts and links is a pain in the ass. You gave Google a cut by not making it a direct link - a 100% cut... if there were an easy way of inserting a link straight to Amazon, you probably would have done it. Also, platforms would be interested in providing more prominent placement for recommendations than they would other content. In other words, ads configurable by the website's users. Kind of like what Adpinion is doing, but instead of just voting on ads, you actually recommend relevant ads for the content. I'm usually really cynical about my own ideas, but this one seems pretty solid... am I missing something?

rodrigo 18y ago

http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=127711 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=127711 I asked some time ago, got great responses.