You can tell by looking at those numbers how much of "XX% of all marriages fail" is a consequence of how many people who get divorced 1x end up getting divorced

You can tell by looking at those numbers how much of "XX% of all marriages fail" is a consequence of how many people who get divorced 1x end up getting divorced 3 or more times. There's a certain kind of Hollywood story where the person goes to the ends of the world to 'discover themselves' and comes back with a whole new life. Such as Eat, Pray, Love. I loathe this story arc with the fire of a thousand suns because if serial divorces teach us anything it's that wherever you go, there you are. If you're not going into a second marriage with a narrative of, "I think I know what I fucked up last time and I won't do that again," then you're going to end up blaming your new spouse for all of your bullshit that you tried to blame on the first one.