The other way is that you make a commitment early and that you mold your personalities together as you grow older. Delaying marriage to “find yourself” is not a

The other way is that you make a commitment early and that you mold your personalities together as you grow older. Delaying marriage to “find yourself” is not always a good thing; I forget the exact term used in a very thoughtful essay on this, but it’s something like “my grandmother’s bookshelf”. By the time you’re in your mid-thirties, grandma’s bookshelf that you inherited is so important that anyone who doesn’t love it must not love you. In reality, grandma’s bookshelf is important - but so is building a life with another person, and you can’t let it keep you from that. It’s not perfect, but nothing is. Life happens whether or not you’re paying attention.