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Do people who get married and have children diverge in values at the same rate as unmarried people who live together? Or do they tend to converge rather and ali
by Telemakhos 1y ago
Do people who get married and have children diverge in values at the same rate as unmarried people who live together? Or do they tend to converge rather and align their attitudes to the common interests of the family?
"Who you are" is not a stable thing, nor is it a mystery suddenly revealed at a certain advanced age: it is something you continuously construct and reconstruct all your life. I suspect that marriage and family play a massive role in that ongoing psychological construction rather than being independent states that might be invalidated by some sudden discovery of "who you are."
- hinkley 1y agoIf the issue is immaturity I suspect they can diverge faster. Some people grown up when they have kids. Others don’t, and that becomes a frequent source of argument. Others collapse their lives entirely, which can be shocking for the person who saw something in you that you’ve now abandoned.