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My interpretation was that we haven't experienced it as adults; We may have experienced it as children, but my experience (maybe not everybody's) is that I don'
by alias_neo 1y ago
My interpretation was that we haven't experienced it as adults; We may have experienced it as children, but my experience (maybe not everybody's) is that I don't remember enough about being a young child to necessarily know the best way to approach things with my own children, and we haven't necessarily seen how others do it.
I'm also much older (a decade) than my parents were when they had their first child.
- bombcar 1y agoOh that decade; man you feel that in your bones when you're pushing 40+ and the parents of your kindergartener's friends are barely 25 ...
- alias_neo 1y agoMy wife tells me a story about a young lady in one of the baby groups who was looking for other mothers to get to know. She's a selfless woman my wife, and goes out of her way for anyone, but she felt bad that she just couldn't get a long with this young lady to the point where she'd exchange numbers and arrange to meet up for coffee or whatever; while the young lady was also feeling alienated from her childless friends. There were almost two decades between them and she just couldn't find anything to relate on and she felt really awkward; she still thinks about that occasionally and regrets not trying harder. I'm the voice of (un)reason and have to reign in her selflessness sometimes for her own wellbeing and had to convince her she had herself and a new born to take care of first and foremost.
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