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I completely missed your point, I think. Do you mean that the current generation of young parents didn't experience enough things being games as kids themselves

by simgt 1y ago

I completely missed your point, I think. Do you mean that the current generation of young parents didn't experience enough things being games as kids themselves?

alias_neo 1y ago
My interpretation was that we haven't experienced it as adults; We may have experienced it as children, but my experience (maybe not everybody's) is that I don't remember enough about being a young child to necessarily know the best way to approach things with my own children, and we haven't necessarily seen how others do it. I'm also much older (a decade) than my parents were when they had their first child.
- bombcar 1y ago
  Oh that decade; man you feel that in your bones when you're pushing 40+ and the parents of your kindergartener's friends are barely 25 ...
  - alias_neo 1y ago
    My wife tells me a story about a young lady in one of the baby groups who was looking for other mothers to get to know. She's a selfless woman my wife, and goes out of her way for anyone, but she felt bad that she just couldn't get a long with this young lady to the point where she'd exchange numbers and arrange to meet up for coffee or whatever; while the young lady was also feeling alienated from her childless friends. There were almost two decades between them and she just couldn't find anything to relate on and she felt really awkward; she still thinks about that occasionally and regrets not trying harder. I'm the voice of (un)reason and have to reign in her selflessness sometimes for her own wellbeing and had to convince her she had herself and a new born to take care of first and foremost.
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bombcar 1y ago
My earliest memories, sketchy and faint, are around eight or so years old. By that time my youngest sibling was already out of diapers; I had literally zero experience with newborns and had changed ONE diaper in my life before the hospital shoved one in my arms and said "good luck, don't shake her." Larger families of yore, the eldest kids would be in their teens when the last baby was born; they would have living memory (and probably even were enlisted to help). And as others have mentioned, you don't really begin to meet the parents of your children's friends until they're old enough to have friends, which is usually daycare at the earliest; often school for many. You have to make an effort and action to join a "mom's group" these days; before local family, church, even the neighborhood would spontaneously be a "mom's group".

by simgt 1y ago

I completely missed your point, I think. Do you mean that the current generation of young parents didn't experience enough things being games as kids themselves?

alias_neo 1y ago

My interpretation was that we haven't experienced it as adults; We may have experienced it as children, but my experience (maybe not everybody's) is that I don't remember enough about being a young child to necessarily know the best way to approach things with my own children, and we haven't necessarily seen how others do it. I'm also much older (a decade) than my parents were when they had their first child.

bombcar 1y ago
Oh that decade; man you feel that in your bones when you're pushing 40+ and the parents of your kindergartener's friends are barely 25 ...
- alias_neo 1y ago
  My wife tells me a story about a young lady in one of the baby groups who was looking for other mothers to get to know. She's a selfless woman my wife, and goes out of her way for anyone, but she felt bad that she just couldn't get a long with this young lady to the point where she'd exchange numbers and arrange to meet up for coffee or whatever; while the young lady was also feeling alienated from her childless friends. There were almost two decades between them and she just couldn't find anything to relate on and she felt really awkward; she still thinks about that occasionally and regrets not trying harder. I'm the voice of (un)reason and have to reign in her selflessness sometimes for her own wellbeing and had to convince her she had herself and a new born to take care of first and foremost.
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bombcar 1y ago

My earliest memories, sketchy and faint, are around eight or so years old. By that time my youngest sibling was already out of diapers; I had literally zero experience with newborns and had changed ONE diaper in my life before the hospital shoved one in my arms and said "good luck, don't shake her." Larger families of yore, the eldest kids would be in their teens when the last baby was born; they would have living memory (and probably even were enlisted to help). And as others have mentioned, you don't really begin to meet the parents of your children's friends until they're old enough to have friends, which is usually daycare at the earliest; often school for many. You have to make an effort and action to join a "mom's group" these days; before local family, church, even the neighborhood would spontaneously be a "mom's group".