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Valid does not mean productive. The unfortunate reality is that people hold these beliefs not because they are true, but because they desperately want them to
by const_cast 1y ago
Valid does not mean productive.
The unfortunate reality is that people hold these beliefs not because they are true, but because they desperately want them to be true.
Self-destruction is perhaps the most common behavior there is. We would all like to believe nothing is our fault and the world just sucks, and such a belief is very comfortable. But we form that belief because it is easy, because it requires no thought, and because it ultimately hurts us.
Being a failure is easy, being a failure that's not your fault is even easier. Trying, winning, is hard. Lots of people would rather just not play at all. They think doing so will help them, because winning is hard. But it doesn't, it's just self-destructive.
It's like not showing up to an interview because you're worried it'll go bad. Yeah, it might. But you can't get a job you didn't even interview for.
- cdnthrownawy39 1y agoKind of disagree that it isn't productive. If someone self destructs out of a social life due to consuming an artificial social life, doesn't that also mean that people that want and need human connection won't have to waste their time filtering through someone that won't provide them with what they want?
- const_cast 1y agoSure, maybe, but it's not productive for themselves - it's self-destruction. It's the equivalent of cutting off your legs so you can't enter the race so you don't lose the race. Well... mission accomplished, you won't lose the race. But at what cost? Bonus points if you can believe it's everyone else's fault and none your own. Now you can't lose AND it's not your fault. Great! But you're not even playing.
- cdnthrownawy39 1y ago[dead]
- zwnow 1y agoWhy does everything have to be productive? "Hey live a life you arent comfortable with so you fit better into society! :("
- const_cast 1y agoI mean productive in the sense of helping yourself, not others. Self-destructions and related behaviors such as poor self-esteem and self-hatred arent bad for society - they're bad for you. The reason people do them is because they are bad for themselves. Some people want to punish themselves, others believe thats all they deserve, and many have such an innate fear of failure and disappointment they willingly forfeit themselves from the game
- cindyllm 1y ago[dead]