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If this was done bayesian style we could say the priors are man taking advantage of woman. 9 cases out of 10 if there is a rape case you can assume the perp is

If this was done bayesian style we could say the priors are man taking advantage of woman. 9 cases out of 10 if there is a rape case you can assume the perp is male and if you don't you are like a born yesterday idiot. And if you're a woman it's super important to keep it in mind, like you think of getting into elevator (or airbnb like in this case) alone with a random man you should not be like "let's not pre judge people". With wrong cancellation it's different because it's not an urgent situation and people should not ruin someone's life randomly. It would be stupid to force us to think "really there's a 50/50 chance if the rapist is that man or that woman" but if you say "there's a 50/50 chance if the guy is a creep or that woman is scheming something" then it can be not that wrong (depending on country) But in this case we still don't know who is wrong. This is the original letter https://medium.com/@yifanxing/my-experience-with-sexual-harassment-in-the-scala-community-9245b4a139de https://medium.com/@yifanxing/my-experience-with-sexual-hara... and it was not shown false. All that the courts said was "no evidence was provided". And the guy didn't clearly deny it in the letter as I understand it

Grimeton 1y ago
> But in this case we still don't know who is wrong. This is the original letter https://medium.com/@yifanxing/my-experience-with-sexual-hara https://medium.com/@yifanxing/my-experience-with-sexual-hara... and it was not shown false. All that the courts said was "no evidence was provided". And the guy didn't clearly deny it in the letter as I understand it Just as a reminder, it's: "Innocent until proven guilty." The accuser has to provide proof that what they say is right and until that happened the person is considered innocent.
- throwaway290 1y ago
  You are quoting law concepts. If there was proof enough for legal action then "cancellation" would be not necessary right? Just go to jail for rape. Often problem behavior is not criminal enough OR there is no proof to make it criminal enough. If you were the victim what proof do you imagine your will have in this case? There would be no incriminating text messages. Everything is fine until he gets your college ass drunk in the privacy of own airbnb. The cards are stacked. A mature perp picks situation when there is no proof and no witnesses. And it is statistics that 9 out of 10 times it is a man. Maybe the only proof if any after this would be STDs. Do you want to announce to the world you have some incurable virus that you will spread to new partner who you would want to have kids with? etc Yea it sucks that fixing this mess makes men uncomfortable. If you are scared about getting drive by cancelled, you know who to blame. Other men.
  - SkiFire13 1y ago
    > You are quoting law concepts It's a concept based on the historic lesson that pushing innocent people is worse than not punishing guilty people. You seem to disagree though. > Yea it sucks that fixing This is shuffling which innocent gets to suffer, but is not fixing anything.
    - throwaway290 1y ago
      The historic lesson is that men and especially men in power commonly abuse their position ranging from harassment to rape and legal system will fall over itself to serve them. That lesson led to metoo and stuff. Look it up. > This is shuffling which innocent gets to suffer, but is not fixing anything. Bro I really really hope you are not trying to compare wrongful cancellation and rape.
      - Jensson 1y ago
        > Bro I really really hope you are not trying to compare wrongful cancellation and rape. You have to compare such things. A cancellation if strong enough has ruined your entire social life, all your friends and family now shuns you, that is worse than rape. Of course a "cancellation" which is just some posts online and stays online is not a big deal, but some victims of false accusations do get their entire social life destroyed. Historically rape did lead to such cancelations for the woman, she was no longer fit for marriage and was seen as used goods, so then it was worse of course, but we no longer see it that way.
        throwaway290 1y ago
        They are comparable but the outcome of the comparison is not what you think it is. Even in an individual case. And then remember that wrong cancellations are super, super rare compared to the scale of violence men commit most of which is never reported. > we no longer see it that way. Who is we? Many people are still religious (in UK for example more than half of people and growing) but even without that remember this is a physical assault and a major black mark on your ENTIRE life that you have to deal with even if you move abroad and not a single soul around you knows what was done to you, ruinous psychologically and causing destructive behaviors, making you intuitively scared of men. And meanwhile the biggest consequence men suffer, like this guy, is "I lost my way of making money because everyone in Scala community hates me". The number of ways to deal with it, move, change your community, change your name.... he mentions some of them himself. And for a rape victim, none of that works, it's just with you until you die. This shit requires healing that for some never happens. And for the perp it's just inconvenient logistics (and only IF one victim is brave enough to speak) This is an insane conversation but I will continue because again the only way to avoid innocent men from a cancel is to try to get more men to understand how this is fucked up beyond belief.

Grimeton 1y ago

> But in this case we still don't know who is wrong. This is the original letter https://medium.com/@yifanxing/my-experience-with-sexual-hara https://medium.com/@yifanxing/my-experience-with-sexual-hara... and it was not shown false. All that the courts said was "no evidence was provided". And the guy didn't clearly deny it in the letter as I understand it Just as a reminder, it's: "Innocent until proven guilty." The accuser has to provide proof that what they say is right and until that happened the person is considered innocent.

throwaway290 1y ago
You are quoting law concepts. If there was proof enough for legal action then "cancellation" would be not necessary right? Just go to jail for rape. Often problem behavior is not criminal enough OR there is no proof to make it criminal enough. If you were the victim what proof do you imagine your will have in this case? There would be no incriminating text messages. Everything is fine until he gets your college ass drunk in the privacy of own airbnb. The cards are stacked. A mature perp picks situation when there is no proof and no witnesses. And it is statistics that 9 out of 10 times it is a man. Maybe the only proof if any after this would be STDs. Do you want to announce to the world you have some incurable virus that you will spread to new partner who you would want to have kids with? etc Yea it sucks that fixing this mess makes men uncomfortable. If you are scared about getting drive by cancelled, you know who to blame. Other men.
- SkiFire13 1y ago
  > You are quoting law concepts It's a concept based on the historic lesson that pushing innocent people is worse than not punishing guilty people. You seem to disagree though. > Yea it sucks that fixing This is shuffling which innocent gets to suffer, but is not fixing anything.
  - throwaway290 1y ago
    The historic lesson is that men and especially men in power commonly abuse their position ranging from harassment to rape and legal system will fall over itself to serve them. That lesson led to metoo and stuff. Look it up. > This is shuffling which innocent gets to suffer, but is not fixing anything. Bro I really really hope you are not trying to compare wrongful cancellation and rape.
    - Jensson 1y ago
      > Bro I really really hope you are not trying to compare wrongful cancellation and rape. You have to compare such things. A cancellation if strong enough has ruined your entire social life, all your friends and family now shuns you, that is worse than rape. Of course a "cancellation" which is just some posts online and stays online is not a big deal, but some victims of false accusations do get their entire social life destroyed. Historically rape did lead to such cancelations for the woman, she was no longer fit for marriage and was seen as used goods, so then it was worse of course, but we no longer see it that way.
      - throwaway290 1y ago
        They are comparable but the outcome of the comparison is not what you think it is. Even in an individual case. And then remember that wrong cancellations are super, super rare compared to the scale of violence men commit most of which is never reported. > we no longer see it that way. Who is we? Many people are still religious (in UK for example more than half of people and growing) but even without that remember this is a physical assault and a major black mark on your ENTIRE life that you have to deal with even if you move abroad and not a single soul around you knows what was done to you, ruinous psychologically and causing destructive behaviors, making you intuitively scared of men. And meanwhile the biggest consequence men suffer, like this guy, is "I lost my way of making money because everyone in Scala community hates me". The number of ways to deal with it, move, change your community, change your name.... he mentions some of them himself. And for a rape victim, none of that works, it's just with you until you die. This shit requires healing that for some never happens. And for the perp it's just inconvenient logistics (and only IF one victim is brave enough to speak) This is an insane conversation but I will continue because again the only way to avoid innocent men from a cancel is to try to get more men to understand how this is fucked up beyond belief.