I think you've got this backwards. If you write a React component that internally uses some 3rd party component/hook, and on every render of your component you

I think you've got this backwards. If you write a React component that internally uses some 3rd party component/hook, and on every render of your component you pass something as a prop to that 3rd party component that's different from the previous render you should expect that 3rd party component/hook to also rerender/rerun. This isn't really surprising, nor is it even a problem in most cases. If you're the one writing that reusable thing, you don't need to do anything special or write the kind of defensive code you're talking about. It's up to the original source of those props to make sure they're not creating new objects every render if they're in a context where that even matters