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> after being screamed at by my direct supervisor It feels weird to me to ask for accommodations around an event that shouldn't happen in the first place, and

> after being screamed at by my direct supervisor It feels weird to me to ask for accommodations around an event that shouldn't happen in the first place, and should result in corrective action against the supervisor if it did happen... It also feels very specific. Was being screamed at a regular issue with your supervisor in the job where you made this request for accommodation? Or was it at a prior job and you wanted to defend against that specific situation in this job? As written it's like you're saying "My supervisor is a shouty asshole" or "I expect to be in conflict with my supervisor, and I expect that conflict to come to yelling." Neither of those are really about your disability, they're about your supervisor and your relationship with them. You can't fix either of those with disability accommodations. Not that it helps much in your current situation, but next time consider different wording, maybe something like: "I need recovery time after stressful interactions, and I do not want to be penalized when I take that time."

infoseekadvice 1y ago
Fun fact: apparently "hostile" work environment, in the legal sense, doesn't cover things like shouting, or apparently even throwing things if they don't connect with you (!). So to be honest, it was partly a backdoor way to handle a mishandled harassment issue. (In addition to refusing to engage in the interactive process, they did not follow their own internal policies on investigating harassment complaints.) So it was two issues in parallel: One was a harassment issue, the other was some sensory things. One of the accommodations I asked for was written feedback -- a common one for folks on the spectrum. This made the person angry, since it's hard to say "I told you to do X, why did you do X" when it's in writing instead of a verbal discussion. Anyways, my goal is to just move on, treat the eventual windfall (they've already tried offering me $ at least once) as if it doesn't exist, and try to keep on doing the work I love -- if it had had a different culture I'd have kept on even if I hit the lottery. Hence the HN post -- I can't be the first person to be retaliated against, and I'd like to think if I can provide references and point at projects/duties I'd easily be able to move on to a similar role at another company. Aside from the shouting thing, a lot of what I asked for would be met in a hybrid or remote role, since by their nature you need to do a lot of written comms to keep ppl on the same page.

infoseekadvice 1y ago

Fun fact: apparently "hostile" work environment, in the legal sense, doesn't cover things like shouting, or apparently even throwing things if they don't connect with you (!). So to be honest, it was partly a backdoor way to handle a mishandled harassment issue. (In addition to refusing to engage in the interactive process, they did not follow their own internal policies on investigating harassment complaints.) So it was two issues in parallel: One was a harassment issue, the other was some sensory things. One of the accommodations I asked for was written feedback -- a common one for folks on the spectrum. This made the person angry, since it's hard to say "I told you to do X, why did you do X" when it's in writing instead of a verbal discussion. Anyways, my goal is to just move on, treat the eventual windfall (they've already tried offering me $ at least once) as if it doesn't exist, and try to keep on doing the work I love -- if it had had a different culture I'd have kept on even if I hit the lottery. Hence the HN post -- I can't be the first person to be retaliated against, and I'd like to think if I can provide references and point at projects/duties I'd easily be able to move on to a similar role at another company. Aside from the shouting thing, a lot of what I asked for would be met in a hybrid or remote role, since by their nature you need to do a lot of written comms to keep ppl on the same page.