There is no _we_. There are people who have a deep emotional need to control other people's lives and use all available tools to do that. There are also peopl

There is no _we_. There are people who have a deep emotional need to control other people's lives and use all available tools to do that. There are also people who don't have that need at all and would very much like to use the same tools to improve themselves or their children. These are two separate groups but "we" are limiting the second group's access to tools in order to prevent the first group from misusing it. In fact, some people tabooize the tools and intentionally attack even the second group for using them because they either afraid of the first group or, more often, because they are not even aware there are different types of people with different motivations and driving needs.