No, but if the load is uneven and you’re giving up career possibilities it becomes harder not to think about what you were giving up because instead of some har

No, but if the load is uneven and you’re giving up career possibilities it becomes harder not to think about what you were giving up because instead of some hard to quantify 1950s-style bargain you’ll be thinking of lost promotions relative to your peers when you're doing laundry at 11pm.