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They are married though. A bunch a guys stand no chance of being or staying married because they just don’t offer what it takes

epicureanideal 1y ago
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- more_corn 1y ago
  Come on, you only ever stand to lose half your resources. Also you’re interacting with the wrong kinda lady my friend.
  - giantg2 1y ago
    Not every state is a 50% community property split. That's not to mention the child support, which is just wild when you see how it's calculated in most places.
  - aianus 1y ago
    (Half your assets at the time of divorce plus child support and alimony) can easily be more than (all of your assets at the time of your wedding)
  - hatefulmoron 1y ago
    > Also you’re interacting with the wrong kinda lady my friend. When you sign a contract you have to be careful to consider how fucked you can be by the other side. It's not really the fault of that particular lady, you don't know how things will turn out.
  - epicureanideal 1y ago
    > you only ever stand to lose half your resources Not true. You can lose half your current assets easily, but possibly more. Then you likely need to pay alimony for many years, which if you add it up might be.. pretty much the other half, depending on the situation, and maybe much more. And that’s before talking about child support, which can be gamed, because they can argue for higher custody percentage in order to extract higher payments from you. It’s so common it’s basically routine.
    - tomhow 1y ago
      We've asked you before to refrain from engaging in gender flamewar on HN. Please cease from doing this now and make an effort to observe the guidelines, particularly these ones: Comments should get more thoughtful and substantive, not less, as a topic gets more divisive. Please don't fulminate. Eschew flamebait. Please don't use Hacker News for political or ideological battle. It tramples curiosity. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
more_corn 1y ago
Meh, I’ve never met a man who was incapable of doing what it takes. It’s not rocket surgery. Just mostly don’t be a dick and treat your wife how you’d want to be treated. If there’s anything more to it please let me know (for the sake of my marriage)
- acdha 1y ago
  The bar is not high but a shocking number of men still fail it. I’ve lost track of how many coworkers I’ve had relate some story about their “crazy” girlfriend or wife expecting sympathy and not noticing that their audience is feeling bad for her.
  - deleted 1y ago
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  - Yeul 1y ago
    For the first time in history women have choice and they choose against men. Instead of introspection men react angry- predictably.
- actionfromafar 1y ago
  You are right, that's all it takes. You're lucky though to not have met a man incapable of doing what it takes. I see them all the time, being total dicks.
- bigyabai 1y ago
  Wait until you discover gay men, that one will throw you for a loop.
dismalaf 1y ago
> they just don’t offer what it takes You mean they're perceived to not offer what it takes. Of all phenomena, hypergamy is one of the best documented. And in my experience, as inequality grows so too does hypergamy.

epicureanideal 1y ago

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more_corn 1y ago
Come on, you only ever stand to lose half your resources. Also you’re interacting with the wrong kinda lady my friend.
- giantg2 1y ago
  Not every state is a 50% community property split. That's not to mention the child support, which is just wild when you see how it's calculated in most places.
- aianus 1y ago
  (Half your assets at the time of divorce plus child support and alimony) can easily be more than (all of your assets at the time of your wedding)
- hatefulmoron 1y ago
  > Also you’re interacting with the wrong kinda lady my friend. When you sign a contract you have to be careful to consider how fucked you can be by the other side. It's not really the fault of that particular lady, you don't know how things will turn out.
- epicureanideal 1y ago
  > you only ever stand to lose half your resources Not true. You can lose half your current assets easily, but possibly more. Then you likely need to pay alimony for many years, which if you add it up might be.. pretty much the other half, depending on the situation, and maybe much more. And that’s before talking about child support, which can be gamed, because they can argue for higher custody percentage in order to extract higher payments from you. It’s so common it’s basically routine.
  - tomhow 1y ago
    We've asked you before to refrain from engaging in gender flamewar on HN. Please cease from doing this now and make an effort to observe the guidelines, particularly these ones: Comments should get more thoughtful and substantive, not less, as a topic gets more divisive. Please don't fulminate. Eschew flamebait. Please don't use Hacker News for political or ideological battle. It tramples curiosity. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

more_corn 1y ago

Meh, I’ve never met a man who was incapable of doing what it takes. It’s not rocket surgery. Just mostly don’t be a dick and treat your wife how you’d want to be treated. If there’s anything more to it please let me know (for the sake of my marriage)

acdha 1y ago
The bar is not high but a shocking number of men still fail it. I’ve lost track of how many coworkers I’ve had relate some story about their “crazy” girlfriend or wife expecting sympathy and not noticing that their audience is feeling bad for her.
- deleted 1y ago
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- Yeul 1y ago
  For the first time in history women have choice and they choose against men. Instead of introspection men react angry- predictably.
actionfromafar 1y ago
You are right, that's all it takes. You're lucky though to not have met a man incapable of doing what it takes. I see them all the time, being total dicks.
bigyabai 1y ago
Wait until you discover gay men, that one will throw you for a loop.

dismalaf 1y ago

> they just don’t offer what it takes You mean they're perceived to not offer what it takes. Of all phenomena, hypergamy is one of the best documented. And in my experience, as inequality grows so too does hypergamy.