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In many HCOL cities, for many couples, SAHM isn't a financially feasible option. Also, as a full-time mom, you’ve given up autonomy to your husband (since he c
by itake 1y ago
In many HCOL cities, for many couples, SAHM isn't a financially feasible option.
Also, as a full-time mom, you’ve given up autonomy to your husband (since he controls the finances). While women can leave the relationship whenever they want, their careers often suffer, and they can’t just pick up where they left off.
- swagasaurus-rex 1y agoWomen can leave and get alimony, child support, and often times greater custody of the kids. Men don’t want to take that risk, so many men opt out of marriage as well.
- itake 1y agoAlimony is temporary and fixed, whereas careers are not only life-long, but have compounding growth. There is a significant financial gap between a divorced woman in her 50s with only five years of alimony remaining and a career woman in her 50s with a $400,000 401(k) balance.
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- kevin_thibedeau 1y agoWestern Marriage is a contract where one party is rewarded for breaking the terms. The low marriage rates of Millennials / Elder Z [1] are indicative of this new world order. It isn't just "because men!!". [1] https://old.reddit.com/r/MediocreTutorials/comments/18lhait/marriage_rates_are_declining_could_it_just_be_a/ https://old.reddit.com/r/MediocreTutorials/comments/18lhait/...
- epicureanideal 1y agoYou forgot to mention child support which is for up to 18 years. Also, nothing stops the woman from having a career, especially if she cooperatively shares 50/50 custody, but often they prefer aiming for nearly 100% custody because it increases their child support payments, and then still have the option to cry victim that they’re a single mother despite getting thousands of dollars a month and they’re actively preventing the father from being involved with the kids. Happens a lot. As for a stay at home mom who doesn’t get divorced, she doesn’t need to be entirely stay at home for all 18 years.. kids go to school at 5 and can go to after school programs if necessary while she works. A couple years before that if the kids are in pre school she could get a degree or masters degree or work part time. So the career gap could be minimized.
- bethekidyouwant 1y agoChild support is until the kids become independent not 18 years, which I don’t know if you’ve checked these days but kids stay at home indeterminately
- epicureanideal 1y agoProbably depends on the state, but last time I checked it was until 18 or high school graduation, but not later than 19, in the state I’m familiar with.
- redeux 1y agoIn my state Alimony is neither temporary nor fixed, depending on the length of the marriage.
- Sohcahtoa82 1y agoThat notion was the origin of the MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) movement before it got taken over by misogynistic incels that were never going to get a woman anyways. The ultimate in sour grapes mentality. Like saying "You can't fire me because I quit" before you were even hired to begin with.
- lisbbb 1y agoYou all created this economic disaster with high taxes and high cost of living via your voting patterns and you own it now. I'm sure I'll be downvoted to hell for saying this, but it is, in fact, the truth.
- lmm 1y ago> In many HCOL cities, for many couples, SAHM isn't a financially feasible option. Sure - a combination of a race to the bottom on working hourse and supply/demand for housing. We need major tax breaks for single income households and to legalise building homes.
- 1718627440 1y agoBut isn't both the stereotype and how it works in practice, that the man works and the woman controls the finances? I mean "housewife education" was mostly accounting.