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Some men are stepping up. but others aren't. Many women don't want to have kids because they can't find a qualified partner they feel will be a good dad and go
by itake 1y ago
Some men are stepping up. but others aren't.
Many women don't want to have kids because they can't find a qualified partner they feel will be a good dad and good husband.
- kevin_thibedeau 1y agoThey'll also reject this sort of man at the start of a relationship for being "too nice".
- jdlshore 1y agoLet’s not perpetuate these sorts of unbacked, destructive aphorisms here.
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- itake 1y agoI don’t think “too nice” is correct, but I’ve definitely seen women pass on great guys that weren’t 6ft or good looking.
- more_corn 1y agoI fucking love the 6’ restriction. I can think of no better way to eliminate unsuitable mates than to identify that they have a height restriction.
- Mawr 1y ago"Too nice" or "too indecisive", "not confident", "not projecting the ability to take care of and protect her and her children"?
- potato3732842 1y agoAnd the men that eventually wrap their minds around what it takes to not be judged that way become not all that interested in marrying most women.
- globalnode 1y agoYeah its all too hard, easier to just stay childless and be done with it.
- giantg2 1y agoThis argument works both ways - many men can't find women they feel are qualified to be mothers.
- epolanski 1y ago+1. I'm 38 and the overwhelming majority of women I had relationships with had the maturity of a teenager well in their 30s. Barely able to take care of themselves financially, mentally, physically, let alone of a family. I seriously felt, except once, I had daughters rather than significant others. Mind you, I might've been unlucky, but the narrative that women are more mature than men, might be true on large statistics which are quickly lost on an anecdotal level.
- itake 1y agoI wont disclose the country, but basically every girl I dated in this place had this problem. My last gf had a really high IQ and a very low EQ. I wish someone warned me about being single in your 30s.
- Mawr 1y agoThat you've consistently chosen immature women to have relationships with tells us nothing about the average woman. You weren't unlucky, you specifically made choices that led to these outcomes. Had you chosen women purely randomly, it'd be a different discussion, but you hadn't. You've done the equivalent of consistently driving above the speed limit and subsequently complaining about the police being too eager to give out speeding tickets.
- potato3732842 1y ago>That you've consistently chosen immature women to have relationships with tells us nothing about the average woman He's restating a complaint that's approximately as old as time. We've got records of roman male heads of household lamenting basically the same thing. He did not voice a novel or even close to novel-ish complaint. >Had you chosen women purely randomly, Have you met men? They're not exactly discerning except at the very tail end of the "yeah this one is worth giving a ring to" funnel. They don't necessarily have a perfect picture of what's available in the market but they're not wildly out of touch.
- nothercastle 1y agoIf you found one that didn’t life sucks. You are going to be a single mom either with one income or 2 but functionally single mom