OTOH, my partner has a kid with disabling autism. He will never live alone and cannot survive without some caregiver support for basic needs like shopping for f

OTOH, my partner has a kid with disabling autism. He will never live alone and cannot survive without some caregiver support for basic needs like shopping for food or handling money. So instead of having children to care for you as you age, you spend the rest of your life caring for a child who will never be independent, and you beat yourself up for not finding the magic something that would have enabled the child to live an independent life. yea, kids are such a joy