I think people want to give physical things and experiences, which you can't really do by just giving money, especially money that can't be spent for decades. T

I think people want to give physical things and experiences, which you can't really do by just giving money, especially money that can't be spent for decades. That's why you can give someone a Starbucks gift card, but it's not good to give them a visa gift card. I think pairing "donations" with physical gifts is ideal. Parents should ask for gifts to be half as big, with the other half put into the trust.