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There really is no point in continuing an interview in an environment you find toxic. Allies? I don't think so; this guy clearly felt that the people he had spo
by sabat 14y ago
There really is no point in continuing an interview in an environment you find toxic. Allies? I don't think so; this guy clearly felt that the people he had spoken to were damaged, and I doubt he'd want them to be allies of any kind. Be polite, sure. But I'd get out, too, if I really felt this way.
- euroclydon 14y agoDamaged? Which behavior of the interviewers qualifies them as damaged?
- sabat 14y agoDamaged as in mentally imbalanced or unstable. I've interviewed with people who fit that term.
- euroclydon 14y agoIf I asked you, "please define 'damaged'", would you then answer my original question?
- sillysaurus 14y agoSay your next product was in a domain that would solve a direct daily problem for the lead dev at this shop. By needlessly being judgemental (the people were "damaged"? Is that really how you go through life?) you've lost the opportunity to sell him your product. In other words, you've prevented yourself from furthering your long-term strategies / from implementing your overall vision for no reason. More simply, there is no possible benefit in acting this way.
- JabavuAdams 14y ago> More simply, there is no possible benefit in acting this way. I agree that what you suggest is prudent, but the statement is false. For many people, simply avoiding certain kinds of annoyance is a benefit. If avoiding certain annoyances keeps someone from reaching his stated goals, then obviously it's a bad strategy. However, often it doesn't.
- sillysaurus 14y agoIt may be gratifying, but you've constrained your future options without gaining anything decisive. By not dominating the thoughts and feelings inhabiting your mind, you are being held hostage to primal instincts. Merely avoiding annoyance is not worth it when the cost is high.
- rimantas 14y agoDon't confuse self-respect and primal instincts.
- JabavuAdams 14y ago> It may be gratifying, but you've constrained your future options without gaining anything decisive. My point is that you don't know that. Different people have different goals and metrics for success. Avoiding dealing with annoying people may rate much higher for this person than for you. Too little self discipline is a problem, where "too little" means not enough to allow you to do what you consider important. This doesn't mean that more is better. Discipline is a tool, not an end (unless that's your personal definition of success).
- rimantas 14y agoOk, look at this: lead dev sees that your product solves their problem, but refuses to buy it, because you walked out of the interview. And this somehow makes makes more sense than leaving interview at a company that you think is wrong fit for you?
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