Obviously we could have a conversation, it felt like they didn't value it enough to give it their full attention (I don't doubt the music was turned off, though

Obviously we could have a conversation, it felt like they didn't value it enough to give it their full attention (I don't doubt the music was turned off, though). This says more about you than them. What was the point? To have a conversation or to get your coworker to behave a certain way? You're annoyed at arbitrary aesthetics, as if this person didn't show enough deference to your preferences, even though you were sure they turned off their music and you were able to have a conversation.