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There will always be some people who don't want to talk to strangers, but how much of what we experience is due to social conditioning? As for women who don't

by II2II 1y ago

There will always be some people who don't want to talk to strangers, but how much of what we experience is due to social conditioning? As for women who don't want to be approached, harassment is an entirely different issue. Just because talking to strangers and harassing women were more acceptable in the past doesn't mean that one follows from the other.

brookst 1y ago
There are just a lot more people now. It would be exhausting to try to talk to everyone one runs across in a day. 100 years ago, that was not true.
- adrianN 1y ago
  Two hundred years ago London already had 1.4M inhabitants.
t-3 1y ago
> As for women who don't want to be approached, harassment is an entirely different issue. Just because talking to strangers and harassing women were more acceptable in the past doesn't mean that one follows from the other. Unwanted advances, whether sexual, social, or commercial in nature, are all harassment. They all make the recipient uncomfortable, and others should be able to identify and respect anti-openness signaling like wearing earbuds or not sustaining eye contact.
- potato3732842 1y ago
  >Unwanted advances, whether sexual, social, or commercial in nature, are all harassment. I'll be sure to tell the Jehovah's Witnesses and floozies that they have selling solar that they're harassing me. When everything is "harassment" nothing is.
  - wkat4242 1y ago
    > I'll be sure to tell the Jehovah's Witnesses and floozies that they have selling solar that they're harassing me. Well, I absolutely 100% consider these types harrassing yes. The indicative parts is that they are 100% selfish in their reasons to contact (the jehovah's want to make themselves feel good by spreading their religion, the sellers want income). There's zero in it for me, there is zero consideration for me. I'm just a target for their gratification. And they have no interest in my objections. I don't even open the door anymore to people I don't know because it's always bad news.
  - mystified5016 1y ago
    The shitty salesman who won't leave your stoop is harassment. Religious evangalists who keep coming to your door after you tell them to stop is harassment. When someone tells you to stop and go away and you refuse, that is harassment.
tomjen3 1y ago
There are strangers I would like to talk to. It is just that most strangers are not someone I would like to talk to - if I wanted to talk to somebody I could just remove my airpods. This isn't part of the social conditioning, it is because most people are not very interesting.

by II2II 1y ago

brookst 1y ago

There are just a lot more people now. It would be exhausting to try to talk to everyone one runs across in a day. 100 years ago, that was not true.

adrianN 1y ago
Two hundred years ago London already had 1.4M inhabitants.

t-3 1y ago

> As for women who don't want to be approached, harassment is an entirely different issue. Just because talking to strangers and harassing women were more acceptable in the past doesn't mean that one follows from the other. Unwanted advances, whether sexual, social, or commercial in nature, are all harassment. They all make the recipient uncomfortable, and others should be able to identify and respect anti-openness signaling like wearing earbuds or not sustaining eye contact.

potato3732842 1y ago
>Unwanted advances, whether sexual, social, or commercial in nature, are all harassment. I'll be sure to tell the Jehovah's Witnesses and floozies that they have selling solar that they're harassing me. When everything is "harassment" nothing is.
- wkat4242 1y ago
  > I'll be sure to tell the Jehovah's Witnesses and floozies that they have selling solar that they're harassing me. Well, I absolutely 100% consider these types harrassing yes. The indicative parts is that they are 100% selfish in their reasons to contact (the jehovah's want to make themselves feel good by spreading their religion, the sellers want income). There's zero in it for me, there is zero consideration for me. I'm just a target for their gratification. And they have no interest in my objections. I don't even open the door anymore to people I don't know because it's always bad news.
- mystified5016 1y ago
  The shitty salesman who won't leave your stoop is harassment. Religious evangalists who keep coming to your door after you tell them to stop is harassment. When someone tells you to stop and go away and you refuse, that is harassment.

tomjen3 1y ago

There are strangers I would like to talk to. It is just that most strangers are not someone I would like to talk to - if I wanted to talk to somebody I could just remove my airpods. This isn't part of the social conditioning, it is because most people are not very interesting.