> pretend to be someone you’re not, blunt every aspect of your personality that may be an “ick.” You don't have to "pretend" to do anything, or try to get rid

> pretend to be someone you’re not, blunt every aspect of your personality that may be an “ick.” You don't have to "pretend" to do anything, or try to get rid of what others consider "icky", but generally I think most people aim to at least be neutral (if not pleasant) in the eyes of others, either by social pressure or because life just gets easier and less frustrating then. I'd probably wager that the whole pretending thing you think is required, actually backfires as people eventually learn who you are, so better to just be yourself upfront.