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Many years ago, my daughter (maybe six at the time), lost something semi-important to her, I don't recall what. I think it might have been her username / picto
by techdmn 1y ago
Many years ago, my daughter (maybe six at the time), lost something semi-important to her, I don't recall what. I think it might have been her username / pictorial password card for her school network account. Anyway, we were looking for it, and she said "Dad, dad, I don't know where it is, I feel like I'm going to say a bad word".
I, having just read an article like this, said "That's ok, sometimes saying a bad word can help you process your emotions and feel less stressed. Do you want to go down to the basement where nobody can hear you, and say the bad word?"
"Yes". She goes down the stairs, I close the door, and she yells at the top of her lungs: "I can't fucking find it!". I managed not to laugh, she comes back up, "Do you feel better?" "Yes." Great moments in parenting. :-) (We did eventually find whatever it was.)
- jacobgkau 1y agoTo think, you could've taken that opportunity to point out to her that saying the bad word didn't actually help her find it. Or you could've told her immediately that you heard her through the door because she yelled. Instead, you raised a casual swearer who's unaware of her surroundings. I hope nobody ever has to live in an apartment next to her.
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- qualeed 1y agoIt's comments like this that really make participating on this forum not fun. It's a cute story. Fuck is just a word. They aren't going to grow up to be a bad person because they said it as a kid, and it's wild to say stuff like this to someone when you have literally no other context about their life or upbringing. Your weird negativity to a stranger and implying they aren't doing a good job parenting based on them sharing a couple sentence long story is, in my opinion, a worse character trait than saying fuck every now and again. You have 0 idea what kind of kid they are raising. Oh the horror of a "casual swearer"!
- gsinclair 1y agoPraise be to this comment!
- galaxyLogic 1y agoThere are T-shirts that say "Fuck You You Fucking Fuck!". See: https://www.etsy.com/market/fuck_you_you_fucking https://www.etsy.com/market/fuck_you_you_fucking
- johnisgood 1y agoI have a pretty amazing t-shirt that says "Fuck you" all over. I believe it is available in a hoodie version, too. I do not mind wearing it to the doctor's office either. Even though they may not speak English, everyone knows what "Fuck you" means.
- bombcar 1y agoIt also can be almost any part of a a sentence. “Fuck the fucking fucks.” Versatile!
- sunrunner 1y ago> saying the bad word didn't actually help her find it Any proof of this?
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- lxe 1y agoSir, this isn't Instagram
- sunrunner 1y ago(Knowingly going against all HN comment guidelines...) And with a few more paragraphs it would also be perfectly formatted for LinkedIn.
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- supermatt 1y agoIt’s bold of you to critique someone else’s parenting when it’s clearly your own parents who raised the sanctimonious little cunt (not a curse, just an observation) in this conversation.
- jacobgkau 1y agoThat word has a literal meaning, and it does not apply to me, nor would it fit in the context of your comment. You used it in the derogatory manner of a curse word. You can't just say "not a curse" to make a curse word not be a curse word. Thanks for demonstrating the level of critical thinking you operate with as someone who likes to curse, though. Attempting to frame an insult as an objective reality (and at the same time insulting two other people on the basis of one internet comment) is surely less self-righteous than what I said.
- techbrovanguard 1y agoi will never understand people that are puritains about swearing
- bombcar 1y agoThere’s a special form of embarrassment when your five year old suddenly announces to the entire preschool that they “can’t fucking find the truck”. Some don’t handle it well.
- close04 1y ago> you could've taken that opportunity to point out Let the kids make some "mistakes", and let them think they got away with it. It gives them the some agency, it encourages them to explore and push boundaries, as long as you're there to make sure they don't cross a line they can't come back from. Light swearing is not where you need to draw that line.
- johnisgood 1y agoI mean, if there is a pattern of her going to the basement to yell whenever, then yeah, it would indeed be bad parenting, and I would not want to live next to her either when she becomes an adult. :D As long as it was a one time thing, sure, but if she was conditioned to believe it was "the right way to swear", then nah. That said, I could not give a fuck about who swears and who does not swear, but I do give a damn about volume. (Says the guy who is going to get married to a Latina soon.)
- Cthulhu_ 1y agoNo, but it did teach her you can't just blurt out words like that, teaching self-control. In theory anyway. And she was aware of it - the fact she removed herself etc taught her not to be a casual swearer. The trick isn't to hide them from bad words - no matter how much censorship you apply to TV, film, youtube, whatever they will learn them. But it's to teach them when to (not) use them. If done right, they'll know they shouldn't just casually use it. Anyway, love seeing people without kids chime in.