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Is it to much to ask for to plan and imagine if something works for you before you get it? Or is it so hard to imagine that people actually know what they want

• ben_w 1y ago
  IMO: People trying to plan accurately, end up with a list of things to think about containing more than seven items, and human psychology is such that this makes it *feel* infinite despite us being able to see that it isn't. People who don't worry to much and vibe it, get pregnant/cause pregnancy by accident, often but not always as teens. Despite not planning carefully, and even in pre-industrial societies where a lot more problems were rapidly fatal and the best you could hope for in such cases regarding childcare allowance was a shotgun marriage, vibing it generally works. With more certainty: I'm not sure what the distribution is of women hearing about painful births and saying "nope!", but I do know it's more than none. I know a few deliberately childfree couples who like the higher income and lack of responsibility, and have zero interest in proposals such as this.