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How can this be interpreted as "tribalism"? This is simply a response to a lack of resources (time, energy, etc) to develop deep relationships during the stage

How can this be interpreted as "tribalism"? This is simply a response to a lack of resources (time, energy, etc) to develop deep relationships during the stage of life when one can afford permanent housing. Modernity has made this harder than ever before. If this doesn't apply to you, consider yourself truly privileged.

jacknews 1y ago
How can it not be, where you want to build an enclave of 'like' people (alike in friend connections, education, outlook, not only race, which is what you seem to assume). It's a stage of life where you should be branching out and meeting 'other' people, not just surrounding yourself with college buddies, and further cloistering yourself in that bubble.
- neighman 1y ago
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  - yorpinn 1y ago
    Escalating from a really trivial disagreement to personal and insulting remarks is a far more concerning in the social skills department.
    - neighman2 1y ago
      There's no trivial disagreement, just willful ignorance and strawmanning. (Nice alt account btw, I have created one too!)
      - yorpinn 1y ago
        You're taking this other person to task for making too many assumptions, and now you're assuming I'm their alt account. Maybe take some time to cool off or move on to a different conversation, you're not making a case here.
- mgfist 1y ago
  > How can it not be, where you want to build an enclave of 'like' people (alike in friend connections, education, outlook, not only race, which is what you seem to assume). There's a strong implicit assumption here that stranger neighbors are not 'like' people. For the most part, this is not correct. If you buy a $2m home, your neighbor likely also has a $2m home, is also well educated, also has a high-paying job (probably in a similar field to you) and more likely to be the same race as you. Same if you buy a $100,000 home.
  - jacknews 1y ago
    The point is that all kinds of people have the option to live in the same area. Sure, people gravitate to some extent to their own 'class' of people, but making that an actual goal, and exclusive, seems wrong.
    - mgfist 1y ago
      > The point is that all kinds of people have the option to live in the same area Well not really. Very few people have the option of buying a $2m home. But I get your point. > Sure, people gravitate to some extent to their own 'class' of people, but making that an actual goal, and exclusive, seems wrong. It's a big stretch to go from "I want my friends and I to all live close to each other" to "I want to create an exclusive community for my class of people".
      - jacknews 1y ago
        But this is the stretch being made - 'how to build a friend compound' not just 'how to live close to friends'.
- neighman2 1y ago
  You're doing way too much assuming on who with, when, and why folks are doing this.
  - jacknews 1y ago
    I'm not really assuming anything, but simply taking the 'friends' part at face value. Perhaps I should be assuming more.
deadbabe 1y ago
Friend compounds are typically the ultimate echo chambers. It sounds fun, until you have a vastly controversial opinion. Suddenly, you are no longer a friend, you no longer feel welcome in the very place that you live. The less you know about your neighbors, the better. They could be whoever you want them to be.
- deleted 1y ago
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jacknews 1y ago

How can it not be, where you want to build an enclave of 'like' people (alike in friend connections, education, outlook, not only race, which is what you seem to assume). It's a stage of life where you should be branching out and meeting 'other' people, not just surrounding yourself with college buddies, and further cloistering yourself in that bubble.

neighman 1y ago
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- yorpinn 1y ago
  Escalating from a really trivial disagreement to personal and insulting remarks is a far more concerning in the social skills department.
  - neighman2 1y ago
    There's no trivial disagreement, just willful ignorance and strawmanning. (Nice alt account btw, I have created one too!)
    - yorpinn 1y ago
      You're taking this other person to task for making too many assumptions, and now you're assuming I'm their alt account. Maybe take some time to cool off or move on to a different conversation, you're not making a case here.
mgfist 1y ago
> How can it not be, where you want to build an enclave of 'like' people (alike in friend connections, education, outlook, not only race, which is what you seem to assume). There's a strong implicit assumption here that stranger neighbors are not 'like' people. For the most part, this is not correct. If you buy a $2m home, your neighbor likely also has a $2m home, is also well educated, also has a high-paying job (probably in a similar field to you) and more likely to be the same race as you. Same if you buy a $100,000 home.
- jacknews 1y ago
  The point is that all kinds of people have the option to live in the same area. Sure, people gravitate to some extent to their own 'class' of people, but making that an actual goal, and exclusive, seems wrong.
  - mgfist 1y ago
    > The point is that all kinds of people have the option to live in the same area Well not really. Very few people have the option of buying a $2m home. But I get your point. > Sure, people gravitate to some extent to their own 'class' of people, but making that an actual goal, and exclusive, seems wrong. It's a big stretch to go from "I want my friends and I to all live close to each other" to "I want to create an exclusive community for my class of people".
    - jacknews 1y ago
      But this is the stretch being made - 'how to build a friend compound' not just 'how to live close to friends'.
neighman2 1y ago
You're doing way too much assuming on who with, when, and why folks are doing this.
- jacknews 1y ago
  I'm not really assuming anything, but simply taking the 'friends' part at face value. Perhaps I should be assuming more.

deadbabe 1y ago

Friend compounds are typically the ultimate echo chambers. It sounds fun, until you have a vastly controversial opinion. Suddenly, you are no longer a friend, you no longer feel welcome in the very place that you live. The less you know about your neighbors, the better. They could be whoever you want them to be.

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