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Get married and have children. You'll have an effective afterlife (kids) to fight off that existential dread, and you'll be too busy to be thinking such futile

Get married and have children. You'll have an effective afterlife (kids) to fight off that existential dread, and you'll be too busy to be thinking such futile thoughts. It did for me, anyway.

giantg2 1y ago
I wouldn't start a family in my 40s. It's hard enough when younger and you'll have no time to start over if the marriage goes south.
- runjake 1y ago
  I had 3 kids on the verge of turning 40 and I'm glad I did. I was more mature and had more wisdom. My career was established and stable. I was in a great position to have kids. And, it's kept me younger. We have running competitions, weight lifting competitions, sports competitions. The days I could beat my kids at running are long gone. Now, one's about to beat me at weightlifting. It's really something beautiful about the human condition, watching your kids grow and slowly beat you at everything. Raising kids is challenging at any age, but I can't think of a more perfect time in my life.
- VirusNewbie 1y ago
  Eh, I'm in my 40s and have a baby. I don't have as much time and energy, but I have money so I can have a nanny. I get to eat lunch with my kids on WFH days, and I get to see him getting attention from someone who has tons of experience with babies and enjoys them.
  - giantg2 1y ago
    Sure, if you have that kind of money. If you have as much as DiNiro then a kid in your 60s or 70s is fine too.
    - runjake 1y ago
      Mid-50s here with 3 teenagers. I wouldn't change a thing. It's great. I do not have, nor could I afford, a nanny.
      - VirusNewbie 1y ago
        woah, are you still doing BJJ in your mid fifties?
        runjake 1y ago
        Yeah. Probably unwise of me. On hiatus right now due to injuries, though.
GaryNumanVevo 1y ago
This is such a silly comment. As if someone would see a random HN comment commanding them to get married and have kids, and have some magic epiphany. If you're having children because someone on the internet told you to do so, I'm sorry for your children.
- runjake 1y ago
  > This is such a silly comment. Pfft. This describes your comment. The OP was asking for Internet advice. I gave mine. Disregard it, if you don't like it. Nobody has to blindly follow advice, if it doesn't make sense to them. I don't know about you, but I've gotten countless bits of wisdom from the Internet.

Get married and have children. You'll have an effective afterlife (kids) to fight off that existential dread, and you'll be too busy to be thinking such futile thoughts. It did for me, anyway.

giantg2 1y ago

I wouldn't start a family in my 40s. It's hard enough when younger and you'll have no time to start over if the marriage goes south.

runjake 1y ago
I had 3 kids on the verge of turning 40 and I'm glad I did. I was more mature and had more wisdom. My career was established and stable. I was in a great position to have kids. And, it's kept me younger. We have running competitions, weight lifting competitions, sports competitions. The days I could beat my kids at running are long gone. Now, one's about to beat me at weightlifting. It's really something beautiful about the human condition, watching your kids grow and slowly beat you at everything. Raising kids is challenging at any age, but I can't think of a more perfect time in my life.
VirusNewbie 1y ago
Eh, I'm in my 40s and have a baby. I don't have as much time and energy, but I have money so I can have a nanny. I get to eat lunch with my kids on WFH days, and I get to see him getting attention from someone who has tons of experience with babies and enjoys them.
- giantg2 1y ago
  Sure, if you have that kind of money. If you have as much as DiNiro then a kid in your 60s or 70s is fine too.
  - runjake 1y ago
    Mid-50s here with 3 teenagers. I wouldn't change a thing. It's great. I do not have, nor could I afford, a nanny.
    - VirusNewbie 1y ago
      woah, are you still doing BJJ in your mid fifties?
      - runjake 1y ago
        Yeah. Probably unwise of me. On hiatus right now due to injuries, though.

GaryNumanVevo 1y ago

This is such a silly comment. As if someone would see a random HN comment commanding them to get married and have kids, and have some magic epiphany. If you're having children because someone on the internet told you to do so, I'm sorry for your children.

runjake 1y ago
> This is such a silly comment. Pfft. This describes your comment. The OP was asking for Internet advice. I gave mine. Disregard it, if you don't like it. Nobody has to blindly follow advice, if it doesn't make sense to them. I don't know about you, but I've gotten countless bits of wisdom from the Internet.