There is something to what you are saying, but there's also the truth that an increasing amount of software has been shifted into web browsers. Now the web is f

There is something to what you are saying, but there's also the truth that an increasing amount of software has been shifted into web browsers. Now the web is full of places where you can't control your own data by default, news is locked behind paywalls and an unbelievable number of ads, and the most successful websites like Facebook have replaced blogs with Skinner boxes. Maybe you can contrast the ways you used to talk with your friends online with the popular options now and see some of the differences - all of the dominant options mandate a closed source client and federation isn't even a joke to laugh about.