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> I think men are checking out of relationships because they feel they do not benefit them anymore. Maybe we should make it so that men aren't allowed to own p

> I think men are checking out of relationships because they feel they do not benefit them anymore. Maybe we should make it so that men aren't allowed to own property anymore, that it needs to be owned by their wife? That's how it worked for hundreds of years (with the women being the ones not allowed to own property), and it definitely got women into relationships.

benterix 1y ago
I'm not really sure how your comment helps.
- mcphage 1y ago
  What do you mean? There's a ... well, not a complete solution, but at least part of a solution, that we did for hundreds of years, and have relatively recently abandoned. And maybe we should bring it back. This seems like a pretty normal type of comment, isn' it?
  - hellisothers 1y ago
    Your comment was indeed confusing, do you mean a dowry?
    - mcphage 1y ago
      Actually, I meant bank accounts, and was a bit confused / misinformed. It’s less a plan, more concepts of a plan.
- voskresenie 1y ago
  I don't think they were intending to help.
Jensson 1y ago
Which country are you talking about? Women have been allowed to own property in USA from the beginning. Married women lost their right to own property separately, but that is the opposite of what you are suggesting, women still married men, some women did intentionally not marry though to not lose their property rights. If we made women have all control over the property after marriage as you suggest we go back to then that would just make men marry women at even lesser rates.
tharmas 1y ago
Why does everything have to be about revenge or evening the score? Is that progress? "Two wrongs don't make a right" may be cliché but it has truth.
- mcphage 1y ago
  This isn’t about revenge or evening the score. OP described a problem (men don’t get anything out of relationships), and I’m offering a tried-and-tested solution to that problem. And in the current US military, it isn’t a requirement for promotion to upper ranks to be married (honestly, I had thought it was, but it’s just a rumor), but it does seem to be strongly encouraged.

benterix 1y ago

I'm not really sure how your comment helps.

mcphage 1y ago
What do you mean? There's a ... well, not a complete solution, but at least part of a solution, that we did for hundreds of years, and have relatively recently abandoned. And maybe we should bring it back. This seems like a pretty normal type of comment, isn' it?
- hellisothers 1y ago
  Your comment was indeed confusing, do you mean a dowry?
  - mcphage 1y ago
    Actually, I meant bank accounts, and was a bit confused / misinformed. It’s less a plan, more concepts of a plan.
voskresenie 1y ago
I don't think they were intending to help.

Jensson 1y ago

Which country are you talking about? Women have been allowed to own property in USA from the beginning. Married women lost their right to own property separately, but that is the opposite of what you are suggesting, women still married men, some women did intentionally not marry though to not lose their property rights. If we made women have all control over the property after marriage as you suggest we go back to then that would just make men marry women at even lesser rates.

tharmas 1y ago

Why does everything have to be about revenge or evening the score? Is that progress? "Two wrongs don't make a right" may be cliché but it has truth.

mcphage 1y ago
This isn’t about revenge or evening the score. OP described a problem (men don’t get anything out of relationships), and I’m offering a tried-and-tested solution to that problem. And in the current US military, it isn’t a requirement for promotion to upper ranks to be married (honestly, I had thought it was, but it’s just a rumor), but it does seem to be strongly encouraged.