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I don't understand why you don't understand that you can be sad about this. Parent stated that he's sad the project is no longer maintained. That's a perfectly

by 7bit 1y ago

I don't understand why you don't understand that you can be sad about this. Parent stated that he's sad the project is no longer maintained. That's a perfectly reasonable and human response. Parent does not have to defend having an emotion, even less provide objective truth for why he feels sad. If you don't agree, fine. But I don't see why one would write a paragraph long statement, I validating someone's emotional response.

zozbot234 1y ago
> That's a perfectly reasonable and human response. It's hardly a reasonable response. By casually saying that it's "sad" when a maintainer gives up on a project, GP is also including a very real and heavy implication that this is somehow wrong on their part and that they should continue to shoulder that burden, as a demand from the community. This is a really unhealthy attitude and we should all do away with it. Instead, just acknowledge that the project is now there for the taking by anyone who may be interested. There's nothing "sad!" about this whatsoever, and we should not pretend that there is.
- lukeasrodgers 1y ago
  If my kid is sad that she cannot have an extra granola bar, that does not imply that I am wrong to deny her, or even that she thinks I am wrong, it just means she wishes she could have one.
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- pvg 1y ago
  You don't really get to decide whether someone's entirely in-passing mention of an emotional response to developments in something they worked on is 'reasonable' or not, and more importantly, it's not at all a topic of interesting conversation, just pedantic nitpicking.
  - zozbot234 1y ago
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    - pvg 1y ago
      Project participants showing up to HN to discuss their work is one of the more interesting and valuable things we have here and a 'community norm' in which they start getting hectored over tiny details or pet issues unrelated to the work would not be a good one - it just drives people away.
      - zozbot234 1y ago
        Fully agreed! Thanks for providing your own perspective.

by 7bit 1y ago

zozbot234 1y ago

> That's a perfectly reasonable and human response. It's hardly a reasonable response. By casually saying that it's "sad" when a maintainer gives up on a project, GP is also including a very real and heavy implication that this is somehow wrong on their part and that they should continue to shoulder that burden, as a demand from the community. This is a really unhealthy attitude and we should all do away with it. Instead, just acknowledge that the project is now there for the taking by anyone who may be interested. There's nothing "sad!" about this whatsoever, and we should not pretend that there is.

lukeasrodgers 1y ago
If my kid is sad that she cannot have an extra granola bar, that does not imply that I am wrong to deny her, or even that she thinks I am wrong, it just means she wishes she could have one.
- zozbot234 1y ago
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pvg 1y ago
You don't really get to decide whether someone's entirely in-passing mention of an emotional response to developments in something they worked on is 'reasonable' or not, and more importantly, it's not at all a topic of interesting conversation, just pedantic nitpicking.
- zozbot234 1y ago
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  - pvg 1y ago
    Project participants showing up to HN to discuss their work is one of the more interesting and valuable things we have here and a 'community norm' in which they start getting hectored over tiny details or pet issues unrelated to the work would not be a good one - it just drives people away.
    - zozbot234 1y ago
      Fully agreed! Thanks for providing your own perspective.