ACX had a good review of a pro-natal book here: https://www.astralcodexten.com/p/book-review-selfish-reasons-to-have https://www.astralcodexten.com/p/book-revi

ACX had a good review of a pro-natal book here: https://www.astralcodexten.com/p/book-review-selfish-reasons-to-have https://www.astralcodexten.com/p/book-review-selfish-reasons... TLDR: The reviewer, who has twins under 2, is flabbergasted and can't figure out the book's logistics. The part at the end where the reviewer actually talks with the author is just comedy gold (to a parent), so I will quote it below (emphasis mine): " I was curious enough about this that I emailed Bryan and asked him how much time he spent on childcare when his kids were toddlers. He said about two hours a day for him, one hour for his wife. Relatives and nannies picked up the rest. I could complain that sure, childcare isn’t overwhelming when you’re only doing two hours of it a day. But honestly, this is about the same amount of childcare I do now. And I do feel overwhelmed. So advantage Bryan. When I thought about it more, I realized a lot of my overwhelmedness came from not being able to consistently choose the two hours, and from survivor’s guilt about my wife doing her 7-8 hours. When I talked more with Bryan, he recommended hiring more nannies. ... Instead it had a vibe: stop beating yourself up over your parenting decisions. So I put out a classified ad for babysitters and got two people I really like. Things are a little better now. " Just, you know, be rich and have other people parent your kid. My sides! I can't make this up if I tried.