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> They're intended to stabilize volatile situations and prevent escalation. Wouldn't it be better, in many of these cases, to actually talk it out? When I was
by js8 1y ago
> They're intended to stabilize volatile situations and prevent escalation.
Wouldn't it be better, in many of these cases, to actually talk it out? When I was young and there was a conflict of this sort, we were taught to apologize and shake hands, as a sign of future goodwill.
There is a reason why non-reciprocal altruism (you can say assumption of good intent) is a thing in humans. If we are all only thinking reciprocally, then with errors and mistakes, nobody would communicate with anybody, and no relationship would ever come about.
- tptacek 1y agoDepends on what you think the mission of the school is, but, importantly, that's for the school to decide.
- bigbadfeline 1y agoTalk it out? Why would an intruder, whatever his "cool" drunken motives were, deserve her attention or anyone's for that matter? Why should anyone assume that such a person is a good boy, adept at 18 century manners? The risk isn't worth the bother. On the one hand, we live in a busy word and if you consider drunken characters a waste of time, you should have a way of distancing yourself from them. On the other hand, and far, far more important, not having such a way leaves the door wide open for abuse. "Oh sorry"... "Oh, Oh sorry again, may shake you hand again?"... "Oh, oh, oh..." FT.
- jncfhnb 1y agoWhen you were young, sexual assault of women was more ok too