What specifically are the other things that work? I get that you can hope someone else helps you or that circumstances change on their own. But again while yo

What specifically are the other things that work? I get that you can hope someone else helps you or that circumstances change on their own. But again while you’re sitting around waiting, shouldn’t you exhaust the options that you control? I don’t get how trying to improve your life yourself is a “cult of self” or being portrayed as a bad thing.