If your vim is on a box with an X server, look into client/server mode. You can then specify if you want to open a file in its own process or in the server proc

If your vim is on a box with an X server, look into client/server mode. You can then specify if you want to open a file in its own process or in the server process you spawned earlier. Also, you can set the default yank register to be your X clipboard. Look into set clipboard = unnamed+ (make sure your vim is complied with X support for both of these)