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Are unrealistic beauty/physical expectations for girls and women an 'unfair situation', a 'systemic issue'? If you say yes, think about what expectations for m

Are unrealistic beauty/physical expectations for girls and women an 'unfair situation', a 'systemic issue'? If you say yes, think about what expectations for men there are and whether those constitute a systemic issue. Hint: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ma8h0a/the_666_rule_is_just_asking_for_a_normal_guy/ https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ma8h0... The best thing you can do is actually listen to the things the boys and men say about why they are depressed, feel disadvantaged, etc. instead of just dismissing them and saying they just have to learn how to deal with it. There really is quite a lot of truth in there to be found.

notepad0x90 1y ago
No, I don't think those expectations are unfair. People get to set their standards and expectations however they choose, even if what they choose is unrealistic, it is their choice. It may be harmful to them but that's another discussion, how a choice affects a person and how others might find that choice fair or unfair to them are different things entirely. People can expect other people to look exactly like anime characters or plants if they so choose. > The best thing you can do is actually listen to the things the boys and men say about why they are depressed, feel disadvantaged, etc. instead of just dismissing them and saying they just have to learn how to deal with it. There really is quite a lot of truth in there to be found. No, that is not the best I can do. the best i can do is refer them to someone equipped to help people like a psychologist, pastor, priest or their own parents even. I did not dismiss their struggle or situation, I am dismissive of their blaming of society or women for their situation. We all have our struggles, blaming others unfairly should not be tolerated. They are hostile and dismissive towards the fact that people get to make choices over their own bodies. The moment they start holding other people or society responsible, then I consider them hostile and anti-social elements instead of humans worthy of care and compassion. So long as they accept other people's rights to make choices that affect them, then their struggles are worthy of societal care and empathy from others. Sorry, no one gets to undermine other people's rights and liberties and then ask for compassion or understanding.

notepad0x90 1y ago

No, I don't think those expectations are unfair. People get to set their standards and expectations however they choose, even if what they choose is unrealistic, it is their choice. It may be harmful to them but that's another discussion, how a choice affects a person and how others might find that choice fair or unfair to them are different things entirely. People can expect other people to look exactly like anime characters or plants if they so choose. > The best thing you can do is actually listen to the things the boys and men say about why they are depressed, feel disadvantaged, etc. instead of just dismissing them and saying they just have to learn how to deal with it. There really is quite a lot of truth in there to be found. No, that is not the best I can do. the best i can do is refer them to someone equipped to help people like a psychologist, pastor, priest or their own parents even. I did not dismiss their struggle or situation, I am dismissive of their blaming of society or women for their situation. We all have our struggles, blaming others unfairly should not be tolerated. They are hostile and dismissive towards the fact that people get to make choices over their own bodies. The moment they start holding other people or society responsible, then I consider them hostile and anti-social elements instead of humans worthy of care and compassion. So long as they accept other people's rights to make choices that affect them, then their struggles are worthy of societal care and empathy from others. Sorry, no one gets to undermine other people's rights and liberties and then ask for compassion or understanding.