IME, none of those things are issues that prevent deep friendships in my own life. 1. I've never worried about this. 2. I regularly chat with strangers and ac

IME, none of those things are issues that prevent deep friendships in my own life. 1. I've never worried about this. 2. I regularly chat with strangers and acquaintances IRL, though I don't feel it does much to relieve loneliness or cultivate deep friendships. 3. I'm an atheist, but I don't think I've ever worried about being "religious" about something nor judged someone for being so. I would analyze my own life as follows: friendship requires time spent together. I'm a parent with a full time job in a car centric city, which keeps me pretty busy. I may get one day or night a week to go be social or do hobbies or go to a rotary club or whatever. That's a limited amount of time, so there's a corresponding limit on how many friendships I can realistically maintain. Let alone start new friendships. So I feel like "having it all" is not realistic. Everything takes time: working out, eating healthy, having friends, having a family, having a job, having a community, writing hacker news comments, and on and on. Most data shows that Dads now spend significantly more time with their kids than those of previous generations. So I think for people of my cohort (millennial dads) its just a case where we traded time with friends for time with family.