stroking their ego fantasies about having lots of friends who care about them I would bet that if anyone left X, not one single friend would contact them outsi

stroking their ego fantasies about having lots of friends who care about them I would bet that if anyone left X, not one single friend would contact them outside of that space I worked in substance misuse for nearly 20 years and this reminds me of a dilemma that drug dealers have to go through before they become clean. I have had hundreds of drugs dealers tell the same story: My home used to be full of friends every night of the week when I was dealing. As soon as I stopped dealing not one person knocked at my door. One of the toughest lessons to learn when giving up drugs. same as facebook et al. I see many people who are trapped in the cycle of believing they have close friends on social media sites. They do not! Some of my friends get overwhelmed with the constant notifications. I explain to them that none of the group members are actually messaging them, but messaging the group, hoping to get some sort of response to the meaningless shitty photo of their last meal. I get them to do a little experiment to confirm if this is true. If they are members of a group chat, I get them to leave the group, but tell all members of the group that they are available for direct messages. whatsapp, facebook, X, insta, it doesnt matter, the outcome is the same. They can always rejoin the group if the experiment fails. As you can well imagine, none of my friends recieved any direct messages from anyone in the group chat. So they left all the social media sites and now use signal or email to speak to real friends. And no more poxy intrusive notifications. Ive deleted them using adb. We only have enough psychological space to manage 5-10 friends with love and care. Only human