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>proves No, it doesn't. To actually prove love marriages do not make sense, every single love marriage should fail. Anyway, 50% is a pretty damn good success r

by duaneb 14y ago

>proves No, it doesn't. To actually prove love marriages do not make sense, every single love marriage should fail. Anyway, 50% is a pretty damn good success rate, I think. I don't think I could choose someone to spend the rest of my life with correctly on my first time. It's perfectly natural to fall out of love - that doesn't mean that love marriages don't work, it just means that some don't work.

AznHisoka 14y ago
He's not saying it makes no sense. He's saying arranged marriages have just as high a success rate, if not higher. Personally, I can see that intuitively as well. Expectations are low, and there's not as much "passion". Not a lot of passion sounds bad to a lot of people, but it's better than having tons of passion, and having it turn sour.
sp332 14y ago
It's not just about finding "the right person". Lots of external factors can have a huge effect on marriage success, like religion http://www.edivorcepapers.com/divorce-statistics/christian-divorce-statistics.html http://www.edivorcepapers.com/divorce-statistics/christian-d... or local culture http://www.divorcerate.org/divorce-rate-japan.html http://www.divorcerate.org/divorce-rate-japan.html or even changes in culture over time http://www.edivorcepapers.com/divorce-statistics/divorce-rate-statistics.html http://www.edivorcepapers.com/divorce-statistics/divorce-rat... eta: 50% is not a good rate.
- duaneb 14y ago
  Isn't religion/culture/whatever just one aspect of finding the right person?
  - sp332 14y ago
    If it was, I think it would just be finding someone with similar views. It's interesting that different groups have different success rates.
    - duaneb 14y ago
      I'm not saying we search for those who have the same views, I'm saying we search for those whose quirks won't be a problem down the road. For example, I'm non-religious, and I have dated extremely religious people (i.e. she attended church every day). Surprisingly, it wasn't an issue at all.
jmathai 14y ago
Agree that it doesn't prove anything. Disagree that 50% should be considered a good success rate though.
- duaneb 14y ago
  > Disagree that 50% should be considered a good success rate though. Perhaps this is just a signal that society may be moving past "Till death do us part". I don't think this indicates anything bad about society, except perhaps people forgetting how serious society once treated marriage.

by duaneb 14y ago

AznHisoka 14y ago

He's not saying it makes no sense. He's saying arranged marriages have just as high a success rate, if not higher. Personally, I can see that intuitively as well. Expectations are low, and there's not as much "passion". Not a lot of passion sounds bad to a lot of people, but it's better than having tons of passion, and having it turn sour.

sp332 14y ago

It's not just about finding "the right person". Lots of external factors can have a huge effect on marriage success, like religion http://www.edivorcepapers.com/divorce-statistics/christian-divorce-statistics.html http://www.edivorcepapers.com/divorce-statistics/christian-d... or local culture http://www.divorcerate.org/divorce-rate-japan.html http://www.divorcerate.org/divorce-rate-japan.html or even changes in culture over time http://www.edivorcepapers.com/divorce-statistics/divorce-rate-statistics.html http://www.edivorcepapers.com/divorce-statistics/divorce-rat... eta: 50% is not a good rate.

duaneb 14y ago
Isn't religion/culture/whatever just one aspect of finding the right person?
- sp332 14y ago
  If it was, I think it would just be finding someone with similar views. It's interesting that different groups have different success rates.
  - duaneb 14y ago
    I'm not saying we search for those who have the same views, I'm saying we search for those whose quirks won't be a problem down the road. For example, I'm non-religious, and I have dated extremely religious people (i.e. she attended church every day). Surprisingly, it wasn't an issue at all.

jmathai 14y ago

Agree that it doesn't prove anything. Disagree that 50% should be considered a good success rate though.

duaneb 14y ago
> Disagree that 50% should be considered a good success rate though. Perhaps this is just a signal that society may be moving past "Till death do us part". I don't think this indicates anything bad about society, except perhaps people forgetting how serious society once treated marriage.