I can completely empathise with that. I think a hard lesson I’ve had to learn at some point is that people just don’t want to debate or have hard conversations

I can completely empathise with that. I think a hard lesson I’ve had to learn at some point is that people just don’t want to debate or have hard conversations because it exerts mental effort. Most don’t have a drive to discover the “truth” or arrive at the most optimal solution. This makes you the enemy when you try to engage them, even if it’s not something they’re particularly invested in. In addition many people have an immature mentality where changing their position and adopting yours is losing. They see it as a battleground.