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> Do people who are habitually late view prompt people as rude for being on time? As someone who tries to be prompt to a fault, I can see that yes there are pe

by jghn 1y ago

> Do people who are habitually late view prompt people as rude for being on time? As someone who tries to be prompt to a fault, I can see that yes there are people who get annoyed at promptness. It's not that you're a bad person for being prompt. Rather you're a bad person if you start without them or otherwise push back on their lateness.

tilne 1y ago
I think to some extent some of the pushback is the prompt folks not understanding that sometimes lateness isn’t something they can control (e.g., meeting with important set of stakeholders that you can’t duck out on early ran late)
- 0cf8612b2e1e 1y ago
  There are unavoidable life obstacles, but some people are always late to everything.
  - apercu 1y ago
    Yea, I meant the habitually late.
- jghn 1y ago
  Yes. And even as someone who tries to live by the ethos "if you're on time, you're late", I wind up late sometimes. It stresses me out, but hey sometimes shit happens. But there are people where shit seems to happen more than for others. Late once in a blue moon? No worries. Repeat offender? That's a you problem.
- kelnos 1y ago
  I think people on both sides need to have more empathy, then. I'm generally one of the prompt people, and I'll try to start on time. If people are late, they'll arrive after we start, but that's fine. And the late people need to understand that sometimes they will miss the beginnings of things, but that's ok too; their inability to be on time (for whatever reason) should not waste the time of those who get there on time.
  - Loughla 1y ago
    My experience is that when you have habitually late people will enter a meeting after you start, their first question is, "what did I miss?" So then you waste even more time when someone recaps for them. It's almost like people need to think about their day when they're scheduling things instead of just accepting every single meeting. You can request different times for things. That's an option.

by jghn 1y ago

tilne 1y ago

I think to some extent some of the pushback is the prompt folks not understanding that sometimes lateness isn’t something they can control (e.g., meeting with important set of stakeholders that you can’t duck out on early ran late)

0cf8612b2e1e 1y ago
There are unavoidable life obstacles, but some people are always late to everything.
- apercu 1y ago
  Yea, I meant the habitually late.
jghn 1y ago
Yes. And even as someone who tries to live by the ethos "if you're on time, you're late", I wind up late sometimes. It stresses me out, but hey sometimes shit happens. But there are people where shit seems to happen more than for others. Late once in a blue moon? No worries. Repeat offender? That's a you problem.
kelnos 1y ago
I think people on both sides need to have more empathy, then. I'm generally one of the prompt people, and I'll try to start on time. If people are late, they'll arrive after we start, but that's fine. And the late people need to understand that sometimes they will miss the beginnings of things, but that's ok too; their inability to be on time (for whatever reason) should not waste the time of those who get there on time.
- Loughla 1y ago
  My experience is that when you have habitually late people will enter a meeting after you start, their first question is, "what did I miss?" So then you waste even more time when someone recaps for them. It's almost like people need to think about their day when they're scheduling things instead of just accepting every single meeting. You can request different times for things. That's an option.